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Eulogy examples, written to be said out loud
Full eulogies rather than fragments, each one timed for delivery, with the structure underneath them made explicit and honest advice about getting through it on the day.
Examples by relationship
For a mother
Eulogy for a mother
Full example, about 3 minutes, plus four openings and delivery notes.
For a father
Eulogy for a father
Full example, about 3 minutes, plus four openings and delivery notes.
For a grandmother
Eulogy for a grandmother
Full example, about 3 minutes, plus four openings and delivery notes.
For a grandfather
Eulogy for a grandfather
Full example, about 3 minutes, plus four openings and delivery notes.
For a sibling
Eulogy for a sibling
Full example, about 3 minutes, plus four openings and delivery notes.
For a friend
Eulogy for a friend
Full example, about 3 minutes, plus four openings and delivery notes.
The five-part structure
Nearly every eulogy that works follows this shape. Written out, it takes about three and a half minutes to deliver.
01Say who you are
10 seconds
One sentence. "I'm Dana, Ruth's youngest." Half the room does not know you, and they cannot follow the stories until they know where you stood.
02Give the one line
15 seconds
The single sentence that captures them. Not a list of qualities. One claim you can then prove.
03Prove it with two stories
2 minutes
Two specific scenes, forty to sixty seconds each. Concrete details do the work that adjectives cannot.
04Say what they left behind
30 seconds
What the people in this room do differently because of them. Keep it to a few sentences.
05Close by speaking to them
20 seconds
Turn from the room to the person. A short, direct farewell lands better than a summary.
Six mistakes worth avoiding
Starting with "I have been asked to say a few words"
Start inside a scene instead. A specific moment in the first sentence buys you the room's attention for the next four minutes.
Listing qualities instead of proving them
"She was generous" is forgettable. "She kept a drawer of candy and five-dollar bills for the grandchildren, restocked before every visit" is not. Details survive; adjectives do not.
Trying to cover the whole life
The obituary is the record. The eulogy is one true version. Choose a single thread and follow it.
Writing a flawless person
One affectionate flaw makes the rest believable. Rooms relax the moment they recognize the real person.
Going long
Past six minutes, attention drops and the closing loses its force. Time yourself out loud, not on the page.
Having no backup
Give a printed copy to someone in the front row and agree they will finish if you cannot. Officiants expect this.
For the printed service
The program that goes with the eulogy
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Common questions
- How long should a eulogy be?
- Three to five minutes, which is about four hundred to seven hundred spoken words at a normal pace. Some services allow up to seven minutes for a single main eulogy. Ask the officiant for your limit before you write, particularly when several people are speaking.
- How many words is a five-minute eulogy?
- Roughly 650 words. Most people speak at about 130 words a minute, and grief tends to slow that down rather than speed it up. Read your draft aloud with a timer rather than trusting a word count.
- Who normally gives the eulogy?
- Most often an adult child, a sibling, a grandchild, or a close friend. Some families ask the officiant to deliver it on their behalf, which is entirely normal. The only real requirement is that the person can get through it, so choose someone one step removed from the deepest grief if you can.
- Can more than one person speak?
- Yes, and it is common to have one main eulogy plus one or two short reflections. Agree in advance on who covers which stories, or you will get the same anecdote three times. Watch the total speaking time.
- What if I break down while speaking?
- Stop, breathe, drink some water, and continue. Everyone in the room understands. Arrange beforehand for someone in the front row to hold a copy and finish if you need them to, and tell yourself in advance that using that backup is a perfectly good outcome.